Seeing Jane struggling to deal with her 14-month-old during the interview and listening to her comments, it was clear that she was experiencing considerable stress rooted in guilt, anxiety, and concern about her daughter, whose high level of activity and exploration of her surroundings, like those of any healthy child of that age, were driving her mother crazy! Jane's comments helped us recognize that she was probably trying to create for her daughter a childhood that she had not experienced, but the reality of the situation was very different from her fantasies. She was tired, anxious, and upset with the child, and simultaneously she felt guilty and disappointed about these feelings.