The key to Miller's thesis lies in the word "mark." While we might all easily agree that we are influenced, guided, or affected by early experiences, "marked" is a harsher and more judgmental term. "Marked" seems synonymous with "scarred," "burdened," perhaps even "cursed." Of course there are childhood experiences that "mark" us in Miller's sense. Childhood sexual and physical abuse (1) and the early and tragic death of a mother or father (2) are such events. But there are many other less catastrophic events that affect and influence us without inflicting permanent damage. These experiences happen because the world is an imperfect place, and parents are human and fallible, like all people. Miller makes no distinction among the range of events that affect us.